The Fling
Not everyone opts to be in a committed relationship so, instead, may go for a fling. Love coach Jann Warner describes a fling as "a brief period or occasion characterised by unrestrained, impulsive or extravagant behaviour". This type of relationship is characterised by a lack of commitment and one or a few casual encounters. Defining this relationship is important, so no one expects more from the fling than they should and no feelings (which shouldn't be involved anyway) are hurt.
The Friend
According to Warner, a good friend is the one who steps in to comfort you after a break-up and curls up on the couch with you while you consume copious amounts of coffee and watch a good pick-me-up movie. Everybody needs a close male friend, but no one needs one who is confused about his role. Because of the closeness you share with a friend, it's easy for him to mistake this platonic relationship with something more. Warner describes a friendship to be "a mutually beneficial relationship marked by affection, goodwill, closeness, companionship, intimacy, comradeship, love and fondness", so it's easy to see where one can be confused. Make sure your friend understands that you want nothing more than his companionship on a strictly non-sexual basis.
The Crush
You've just met someone and it's fireworks, magic and butterflies. You spend most of your time gushing about him and singing his praises to your girls and you can't concentrate without his face popping into your mind. You definitely have a crush, which Warner describes as a "temporary infatuation or fixation". Nurture this kind of relationship and maybe you can watch it blossom into much more.
The Lust
"You see him, you want him and you pursue him with only one thought in mind," says Warner. Sometimes confusion can set in when sex is introduced to the equation. Mind-blowing sex definitely doesn't always mean love. In fact, in most instances, you just have the two confused because of the physical bond you share. If you crave to see your man all the time, it might not be love, but nature calling you to satisfy your sexual needs.
The True Love
It's different for everyone, but the feeling of true love is great and almost indescribable. If you've been in a long-term relationship and simply can't imagine a life sans your man, it may be the real deal. "Love is any number of emotions related to a sense of strong affection and attachment," says Warner. Don't be too hasty to find or admit love, in case you scare him away - but when it's there, you'll both know it.
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