Sunday, December 19, 2010

Does True Love Really Exist?

True love? What is it all about? Have you ever wondered where this word came from? Some look at it biblically while others thinks of it emotionally. According to me, i view it both biblically and emotionally. This four letter word has been widely used and mostly abused by many people. I hate the way the word has been misused and carelessly abused to have different meanings. There are different types of love, agape, parental and the love that joins two different people of opposite sex as they start sharing their lives together. There is no discrete definition of the word true love. Definition of the word depends on individual's point of view. It is subject to debate and i would say it is a strong feeling or illusion that starts in the mind and develop slowly in ones inner being.

The word true love has been misused in many ways. When a man claims to fall in love with a lady at first sight and claims he feels attracted to her, is this love surely? According to me this is lust at first sight. Talk about love in the presence of young people and you will get to realize how widely the word has been misused. True love is no longer there and the urge that drive people towards each other is not love but lust. Men are not attracted to women for love but for sexual satisfaction. Love is in most cases misinterpreted and many wonder if does exist. Many of my friends believe that love between a man and a woman is imaginary, there is nothing like love but only the power of the loin that attracts.

Misuses of the power of love has become more of a tradition and is a reality. It is passed from generation to generation and who are we to break this tradition? I believe in the power of love and not lust but in practice love is not elusive. True love is developed from within and it is molded and nurtured by our feelings. Love is a precious gift from God and it should be watered well and taken care of or else it withers and dies off. You might be wondering who came up with this word love? I wonder too but who knows where it came from? It is our obligation to take care of this aspect of love and to handle it with care.

Love is life, it wins all and makes someone feel special. Have you ever wondered how to succeed in life and how to live a happy and prosperous life? it's simple, just learn to love and it will multiply joy and add spice to your life. For the married people and for those aspiring to, you should remember that love adds spice to life, it's thoughtful and gives a reason to live, smile and be ever happy.

Saturday, December 4, 2010

How to Find Reliable Christian Dating

It can be frustrating finding a partner who has similar Christian values to yourself. Are you finding this too? Some single Christians find that they often have to break up an existing relationship due to premarital sex values not being accepted or understood by their partner. Is this you too?

Do you sometimes feel that all the other people who share your views are taken or not in your age bracket? Sometimes you can feel quite alone in a world of non Christians who have few morals and values similar to yourself? Perhaps it is time to think about Christian dating sites.

Christian dating sites have been created solely to cater for single people like you who have firm religious values and beliefs. Not only do these sites provide Christian online dating services, but they offer all sorts of practical advice and solutions to problems associated with Christian dating. If you feel you are being coerced into physical activities you are uncomfortable with, or are feeling tempted, you can receive advice and teachings to keep you on your chosen path.

Others who have felt lonely or simply misunderstood have benefited greatly from online Christian dating networks offering invaluable information and communication. Being able to chat with other single Christians experiencing exactly the same problems that you do can be hugely reassuring and great for keeping your strong beliefs in place.

There are numerous Christian dating services for you to choose from. It is probably a great idea to check out a few first before you join one. After looking at a few you may well discover that there is one site that has more members and better services where you live, or is better suited to your particular denomination.

Superior Christian dating websites will provide plenty of support and services for Christian dating. It is important for you to feel that there is support for your own values and beliefs. Does the website allow you to ask questions anonymously that you may be too embarrassed to ask members of your own Church community or peers? It would be a sad error not to know that you can resolve most questions to any dating issues and talking to with people who have experience with your dating issues.

Christian dating networks can be of huge benefit for those who aren't necessarily in the young and single age demographics. Life circumstances may have you outside the usual single age group and this can make it even more difficult to find a husband or wife. However with Christian dating sites it will be easier for you to find someone in the appropriate age group for yourself.

Christian dating services are also beneficial for those who may have relocated to a new town and don't know anyone. Or perhaps your particular place of worship is a little short on singles? It could be that where you liver there are just aren't any available Christians who interest you? Specialized online Christian dating is available. You just need to know which ones to identify as being valuable and reliable.

Many people now work from home and this can also make it increasingly difficult to socialize and to meet potential spouses. Additionally,for those who do work with others, your fellow work mates may not share your views on dating and Christianity.

Many Christian dating networks are also great for meeting other like minded individuals who share your outlooks on life. You may just be wanting to increase your circle of friends and acquaintances who have similar beliefs as yourself. In today's world it can be difficult to meet other people who stand by their religious values.

Christian dating sites allow you to meet more Christian singles than you are going to meet in day to day life yourself. Using these dating sites sensibly can allow you to meet your husband or wife in ages and regions that you prefer. Online Christian dating can be the perfect solution for many lonely singles who are isolated socially or regionally, or who perhaps are looking for a husband or wife later in life. Both the Internet and Christianity are universal, why not combine two powerful forces?

Does Online Dating really work?

Ok, so with millions of members worldwide your initial impression is that Online Dating Must work, other wise why would there be so many single men and women joining? And I would have to agree, that Dating Online does work, but there’s a catch (as always!)

The easiest way to explain (and most enjoyable), is to compare Online Dating Sites to buying a house (bear with me….)

When buying a house, you don’t settle for the first house that you see, you have a look around inside, you see what the house offers you, you weigh the pros and cons of the house and then you make the decision on whether this house is right for you! Not, any one else, but you. After all, you’re the one buying it. And nothing is more irritating than the little sleazy estate agent trying to encourage you to buy, am I right?

Well, Dating sites are the same. There are different dating sites to suit different needs, after all not everyone are the same. There are dating sites for Single men and women, Gay Singles, Jewish Singles, Christian Singles, people looking for ‘fun’ (if you no what I mean…), people looking for that perfect match. You name it and I bet theirs a dating site for it. And each dating site owner is the sleazy estate agent trying to encourage you to buy!

But the trick is….

The trick to getting the most out of these sites is to know what your looking for, and then look at what each site in that category offers you. I mean why bother joining a Jewish Dating site if you’re catholic? Why join a matchmaking site if you’re just after a bit of fun? This all seems quite obvious but you would be surprised how many singles fall into this trap and that’s why a lot of single men and women aren’t successful!

Right, so now you know the key to Internet Dating, but what should you be looking for from a dating site?

Well to start with, would you give your details to any stranger? I’m sure not, so why start now. There is some Internet sites that I would personally never give my name too, let alone my personal details!

Would you feel a bit uneasy going out on a date with someone and not knowing his or her full background? Do they have a history that they don’t want to share and if so then why don’t they want you to know?

I’m not trying to scare you (I’m a very strong believer in Internet Dating and have been doing it for years!) but getting these little details right will ensure that you get the most enjoyable, successful time out of Online Dating! In fact, my favourite site (http://www.truedating.biz/) covers all these points. They do criminal background checks on all singles joining! Most importantly I just felt so safe when using this dating site, it made my dating experience ten times more enjoyable!

But I Digress….

Overall, Internet Dating is brilliant! It’s bought literally millions of singles across the globe closer and given much happiness to peoples lives. And knowing the basics and essentials as described in this article will provide you with every bit of knowledge you need to get going and to meet all those sexy singles that are just waiting for a reply!

Happy Dating!!

Does online Christian dating work? Anyone have success stories? Horror stories?

If you’ve decided to give online Christian dating a try, keep a few things in mind. First, dating itself can be tricky business, so don’t attribute your successes or faliures to the online nature of the service. Second, as I alluded to in the first section, many different kinds of people call themselves Christians. Joining a Christian dating service does not guarantee that you will meet a religiously compatible dating partner, although the chances are certainly better than at a singles bar. Third, there are a few wackos or spammers out there on the internet, but there is not much you can do about it. Joining a paying site versus a free site helps filter out these kinds of problems. But don’t worry; there are a lot of other people out there just like you earnestly searching for a Christian date.

You might have also heard some horror stories about online dating. Keep in mind that the failures are a lot louder than the successes. People can still be a little embarrassed about online dating (you shouldn’t be!), so if they find a good match, they won’t necessarily tell you it was through an online service. But if someone has a bad experience, he will tell everyone - “I tried online dating as a joke, and let me tell you, it was terrible!” Christians might be especially embarrassed if they feel visiting an online dating site is too worldly or somehow immoral. That moral decision is up to you. But if you decide to pursue online Christian dating, be confident and comfortable with your choice. Courtship is a normal part of Christian culture, and online dating is simply a modern development. Christians have been successfully dating for literally thousands of years. I’m sure you things will work out for you.

I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes from the Bible, pertaining to dating and courtship.

Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit. I said, “I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit.” Song of Solomon 7:7-8, NIV

online online dating web sites - does it work for Christian single people

Single Christians that are looking to form romantic relationships with others should absolutely take advantage of the opportunities to find the right partner on courting websites. There are some Christians who feel that trying online dating is actually a sign of impatience in waiting on God to provide the best person at the right time. However, as Benjamin Franklin declared, God helps those who help themselves. Most Christians who join courting websites are looking for more than just a date to the prom; they are searching for a life partner. With one click of a mouse, you can meet thousands of individuals all in one place who've similar goals your personal. Online dating won't guarantee that you'll meet the right person but it can certainly open doors to new relationships or friendships.

Christian Dating and Online Mating, Can It Work for You?

For a lot of people, the prospect of finding a date or a mate via the Internet can be filled with extreme trepidation. Fear of unknowns and preconceived negative notions often results in procrastination or permanent disillusionment. Are Internet “singles sites” filled with mostly losers and liars? Should Christian singles avoid looking for love on the Internet?

For Elder Perry Broadnax and Coretta Wright, the Internet proved to be the path to wedded bliss. The pair met and married! And it all started when they met at Match.com. Over the course of two years, they communicated first by email, then by phone and finally met face-to-face and finally tied the knot! (He lived in Nashville, TN and she resided in Birmingham, AL).

While both agree that the Internet is just a “tool” and not “the answer”, both are quick to confirm that when you seek “God’s will”, the Internet can be the “way.”

What made you think about connecting for “love” on the internet?

Perry: I lead a very busy and demanding professional life. Outside of the work environment, I have very little (or no) time to devote to meeting people.

Coretta: I have a very full life and wanted to meet a like- minded man. I was ready to merge my life with someone; I knew it would not be easy but I was open to receiving what God had for me.

What were some of your reservations about moving into a relationship via online?

Coretta: The “What ifs”—“What if he doesn’t look like his picture?” “What if he is lying?” “What if he has a hidden agenda?” Then, it occurred to me that he too, could have the same “What ifs.” And, I knew my intentions were earnest and true; “So why not his?” I looked to see if things lined up. “Did his actions reflect his words and heart?”

Perry: Honestly, I don’t know that I had any reservations. I knew what I wanted and was very purposeful in pursuing it. Let me also say, one cannot have an ‘Online’ relationship! The Internet is only the resource that enables two people to connect. Once the connection is established, it is up to the individuals to develop the relationship.

How did the conversation go from casual to serious?

Coretta: After spending many hours on the phone, before meeting, I felt like we knew each other well. So, when we met for the first time (he looked better than his picture!) we talked about how we wanted the relationship to proceed. We had a very long first date; this provided a lot of time to talk and get to know each other. On our second date, I went to visit him and it was then that I knew we had the same desires.

Perry: For me it was never casual; it was purposeful. That is not to say that all our conversations were always rigid and heavy. What I am saying is, I was not just talking to her just to be talking. If what we were doing was not ultimately go- ing to result in us ending up at the altar, it was a waste of time. So, all my conversations were aimed at getting to know her in order to determine if she would be “the one!”

As a Christian adult, it is imperative that before you begin a relationship, utilize any resource like the Internet, or even meet someone in the mall; you should seek God’s direction and guidance! This is the most important thing! Tell God (I mean, really tell God) what you want and what is the true desire of your heart. Wait for Him to give you the impetus to move. It’s all about ‘His timing’! Once He gives you the ‘go ahead,’ then you can begin to look.

I might also say, one must know exactly what one wants because when the waters are troubled, there will be several possible candidates. The only way to distinguish between them and ‘the one’ is to be diligent in knowing what you want and not settling for anything less. —Rev. Perry Broadnax

How did you date (long distance) and make the relationship grow?

Perry: Long distance relationships can be challenging. I don’t recommend it at all to anyone that is merely interested in “dating.” Find someone local! Seriously, once we estab- lished the necessary foundation of truth and trust; did the background checks and established compatibility, we were able to schedule our times of being together. The upside of long distance relationships is that it establishes a premium on quality time as opposed to quantity of time.

Coretta: Long distance relationships are hard and have to be more intentional. When we do spend time together it is quality time. We communicated in various ways several times a day. For example, we used webcams which allowed us to see each other more. Having a long-distance relationship has its advantages; it provides more time to gradually transition into couple-hood and builds an immeasurable amount of trust and confidence in that person.

What advice do you have for singles who want to meet someone and to potentially marry?

Perry: Please seek God’s guidance and wait for His direc- tion! Know yourself! Know what you want and refuse to settle for less!

Coretta: Seek God’s direction. Don’t rush marriage! If you can’t see yourself being honored to have his last name, let him know and move on.