As a single Christian woman there are many questions you might have regarding your future, potential marriage, or dating life in general. By reading the Bible and knowing what standards God has set before us in regards to our Christian match, it makes it much easier. We don't have to re-invent the wheel. We just have to ask the right questions to make sure our potential spouses line up with the road map God has laid before us.
Not surprisingly, the bible has plenty to say about the attributes and personality of a Godly man. The first verse is found in Isaiah 66:2 "This is the one I esteem: he who is humble and contrite in spirit, and trembles at my word." The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines humbleness as one who is not proud or haughty, arrogant or assertive. The definition of contrite is someone who feels or shows sorrow and remorse for a sin or weakness. The first series of questions you should ask should be, "Is the person I am dating, or considering dating, a man who is remorseful for his sins? Does he show arrogance and pride in his daily life and interactions with others? Does he show the same level of humbleness to a waitress as he does his boss?
Next is Proverbs 16:32 "Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city." We have all heard the saying "Patience is a virtue" but why should a single Christian woman look for this quality when dating. By definition patience is the condition of endurance in challenging situations, persevering in the face of provocation without acting in anger or annoyance in a negative way. Christian women should ask the following questions, "Does this man show signs of being quick to anger when he is under stress or something is going wrong in his day? Does he become irritable when he doesn't get his way? Does he become easily annoyed around small children or crying infants? Anyone can show patience when everything is perfect in their life but the true measure of patience is enduring and persevering when nothing is perfect in your life.
Thirdly 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 states "Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful" This verse is very straightforward in what is considered to be an example of true love. We have all heard the saying "Actions speak louder than words" and there is so much truth to that statement. A third set of questions single Christian women should be asking are "Does this person treat me kindly? Is this person jealous by nature and non-trusting of me? Does this person strive to meet my needs or are they only interested in meeting their needs? Do I feel respected when I am with this person?"
The fourth verse is from Philippians 2:3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than you are. Humility is the state or quality of being humble. Therefore if the questions you asked with regard to humbleness raised doubts then it is unlikely you will find humility in such a person. It is important to ask the following questions, "Do they place work or any other selfish ambition before God or others in their life? Do they treat everyone they come in contact with the same or do they act as though they are better than some people?"
The fifth, sixth and seventh questions single Christian women should be asking of their potential Christian dating partners all fall into the category of morals, beliefs, and values. Why are these so important to a single Christian woman? These questions, if asked in a non-judgmental manner, can give you more insight into the heart of a man than almost any other information. The next question is as follows; "What are your views on pre-marital sex"? You would be amazed at how many Christian men feel some form of sexual intimacy before marriage is okay.
The sixth and seventh questions relate to basic values and morals in relation to marriage, infidelity, and other sexual matters. While these questions may be embarrassing to ask it is so important to find out where a potential partner stands on these issues. Do they believe that marriage should be until death do you part? Is divorce an option for them under any circumstances? What about infidelity? Does he believe there is ever a good reason to be unfaithful? Finally single Christian women should ensure that any potential dating partner is free from addictions of any kind to include alcohol, drugs, porn, and sex. By asking these questions you will ensure that you are truly finding that perfect Christian match that God has intended you to be with.
