Sunday, December 19, 2010

Does True Love Really Exist?

True love? What is it all about? Have you ever wondered where this word came from? Some look at it biblically while others thinks of it emotionally. According to me, i view it both biblically and emotionally. This four letter word has been widely used and mostly abused by many people. I hate the way the word has been misused and carelessly abused to have different meanings. There are different types of love, agape, parental and the love that joins two different people of opposite sex as they start sharing their lives together. There is no discrete definition of the word true love. Definition of the word depends on individual's point of view. It is subject to debate and i would say it is a strong feeling or illusion that starts in the mind and develop slowly in ones inner being.

The word true love has been misused in many ways. When a man claims to fall in love with a lady at first sight and claims he feels attracted to her, is this love surely? According to me this is lust at first sight. Talk about love in the presence of young people and you will get to realize how widely the word has been misused. True love is no longer there and the urge that drive people towards each other is not love but lust. Men are not attracted to women for love but for sexual satisfaction. Love is in most cases misinterpreted and many wonder if does exist. Many of my friends believe that love between a man and a woman is imaginary, there is nothing like love but only the power of the loin that attracts.

Misuses of the power of love has become more of a tradition and is a reality. It is passed from generation to generation and who are we to break this tradition? I believe in the power of love and not lust but in practice love is not elusive. True love is developed from within and it is molded and nurtured by our feelings. Love is a precious gift from God and it should be watered well and taken care of or else it withers and dies off. You might be wondering who came up with this word love? I wonder too but who knows where it came from? It is our obligation to take care of this aspect of love and to handle it with care.

Love is life, it wins all and makes someone feel special. Have you ever wondered how to succeed in life and how to live a happy and prosperous life? it's simple, just learn to love and it will multiply joy and add spice to your life. For the married people and for those aspiring to, you should remember that love adds spice to life, it's thoughtful and gives a reason to live, smile and be ever happy.

Saturday, December 4, 2010

How to Find Reliable Christian Dating

It can be frustrating finding a partner who has similar Christian values to yourself. Are you finding this too? Some single Christians find that they often have to break up an existing relationship due to premarital sex values not being accepted or understood by their partner. Is this you too?

Do you sometimes feel that all the other people who share your views are taken or not in your age bracket? Sometimes you can feel quite alone in a world of non Christians who have few morals and values similar to yourself? Perhaps it is time to think about Christian dating sites.

Christian dating sites have been created solely to cater for single people like you who have firm religious values and beliefs. Not only do these sites provide Christian online dating services, but they offer all sorts of practical advice and solutions to problems associated with Christian dating. If you feel you are being coerced into physical activities you are uncomfortable with, or are feeling tempted, you can receive advice and teachings to keep you on your chosen path.

Others who have felt lonely or simply misunderstood have benefited greatly from online Christian dating networks offering invaluable information and communication. Being able to chat with other single Christians experiencing exactly the same problems that you do can be hugely reassuring and great for keeping your strong beliefs in place.

There are numerous Christian dating services for you to choose from. It is probably a great idea to check out a few first before you join one. After looking at a few you may well discover that there is one site that has more members and better services where you live, or is better suited to your particular denomination.

Superior Christian dating websites will provide plenty of support and services for Christian dating. It is important for you to feel that there is support for your own values and beliefs. Does the website allow you to ask questions anonymously that you may be too embarrassed to ask members of your own Church community or peers? It would be a sad error not to know that you can resolve most questions to any dating issues and talking to with people who have experience with your dating issues.

Christian dating networks can be of huge benefit for those who aren't necessarily in the young and single age demographics. Life circumstances may have you outside the usual single age group and this can make it even more difficult to find a husband or wife. However with Christian dating sites it will be easier for you to find someone in the appropriate age group for yourself.

Christian dating services are also beneficial for those who may have relocated to a new town and don't know anyone. Or perhaps your particular place of worship is a little short on singles? It could be that where you liver there are just aren't any available Christians who interest you? Specialized online Christian dating is available. You just need to know which ones to identify as being valuable and reliable.

Many people now work from home and this can also make it increasingly difficult to socialize and to meet potential spouses. Additionally,for those who do work with others, your fellow work mates may not share your views on dating and Christianity.

Many Christian dating networks are also great for meeting other like minded individuals who share your outlooks on life. You may just be wanting to increase your circle of friends and acquaintances who have similar beliefs as yourself. In today's world it can be difficult to meet other people who stand by their religious values.

Christian dating sites allow you to meet more Christian singles than you are going to meet in day to day life yourself. Using these dating sites sensibly can allow you to meet your husband or wife in ages and regions that you prefer. Online Christian dating can be the perfect solution for many lonely singles who are isolated socially or regionally, or who perhaps are looking for a husband or wife later in life. Both the Internet and Christianity are universal, why not combine two powerful forces?

Does Online Dating really work?

Ok, so with millions of members worldwide your initial impression is that Online Dating Must work, other wise why would there be so many single men and women joining? And I would have to agree, that Dating Online does work, but there’s a catch (as always!)

The easiest way to explain (and most enjoyable), is to compare Online Dating Sites to buying a house (bear with me….)

When buying a house, you don’t settle for the first house that you see, you have a look around inside, you see what the house offers you, you weigh the pros and cons of the house and then you make the decision on whether this house is right for you! Not, any one else, but you. After all, you’re the one buying it. And nothing is more irritating than the little sleazy estate agent trying to encourage you to buy, am I right?

Well, Dating sites are the same. There are different dating sites to suit different needs, after all not everyone are the same. There are dating sites for Single men and women, Gay Singles, Jewish Singles, Christian Singles, people looking for ‘fun’ (if you no what I mean…), people looking for that perfect match. You name it and I bet theirs a dating site for it. And each dating site owner is the sleazy estate agent trying to encourage you to buy!

But the trick is….

The trick to getting the most out of these sites is to know what your looking for, and then look at what each site in that category offers you. I mean why bother joining a Jewish Dating site if you’re catholic? Why join a matchmaking site if you’re just after a bit of fun? This all seems quite obvious but you would be surprised how many singles fall into this trap and that’s why a lot of single men and women aren’t successful!

Right, so now you know the key to Internet Dating, but what should you be looking for from a dating site?

Well to start with, would you give your details to any stranger? I’m sure not, so why start now. There is some Internet sites that I would personally never give my name too, let alone my personal details!

Would you feel a bit uneasy going out on a date with someone and not knowing his or her full background? Do they have a history that they don’t want to share and if so then why don’t they want you to know?

I’m not trying to scare you (I’m a very strong believer in Internet Dating and have been doing it for years!) but getting these little details right will ensure that you get the most enjoyable, successful time out of Online Dating! In fact, my favourite site (http://www.truedating.biz/) covers all these points. They do criminal background checks on all singles joining! Most importantly I just felt so safe when using this dating site, it made my dating experience ten times more enjoyable!

But I Digress….

Overall, Internet Dating is brilliant! It’s bought literally millions of singles across the globe closer and given much happiness to peoples lives. And knowing the basics and essentials as described in this article will provide you with every bit of knowledge you need to get going and to meet all those sexy singles that are just waiting for a reply!

Happy Dating!!

Does online Christian dating work? Anyone have success stories? Horror stories?

If you’ve decided to give online Christian dating a try, keep a few things in mind. First, dating itself can be tricky business, so don’t attribute your successes or faliures to the online nature of the service. Second, as I alluded to in the first section, many different kinds of people call themselves Christians. Joining a Christian dating service does not guarantee that you will meet a religiously compatible dating partner, although the chances are certainly better than at a singles bar. Third, there are a few wackos or spammers out there on the internet, but there is not much you can do about it. Joining a paying site versus a free site helps filter out these kinds of problems. But don’t worry; there are a lot of other people out there just like you earnestly searching for a Christian date.

You might have also heard some horror stories about online dating. Keep in mind that the failures are a lot louder than the successes. People can still be a little embarrassed about online dating (you shouldn’t be!), so if they find a good match, they won’t necessarily tell you it was through an online service. But if someone has a bad experience, he will tell everyone - “I tried online dating as a joke, and let me tell you, it was terrible!” Christians might be especially embarrassed if they feel visiting an online dating site is too worldly or somehow immoral. That moral decision is up to you. But if you decide to pursue online Christian dating, be confident and comfortable with your choice. Courtship is a normal part of Christian culture, and online dating is simply a modern development. Christians have been successfully dating for literally thousands of years. I’m sure you things will work out for you.

I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes from the Bible, pertaining to dating and courtship.

Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit. I said, “I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit.” Song of Solomon 7:7-8, NIV

online online dating web sites - does it work for Christian single people

Single Christians that are looking to form romantic relationships with others should absolutely take advantage of the opportunities to find the right partner on courting websites. There are some Christians who feel that trying online dating is actually a sign of impatience in waiting on God to provide the best person at the right time. However, as Benjamin Franklin declared, God helps those who help themselves. Most Christians who join courting websites are looking for more than just a date to the prom; they are searching for a life partner. With one click of a mouse, you can meet thousands of individuals all in one place who've similar goals your personal. Online dating won't guarantee that you'll meet the right person but it can certainly open doors to new relationships or friendships.

Christian Dating and Online Mating, Can It Work for You?

For a lot of people, the prospect of finding a date or a mate via the Internet can be filled with extreme trepidation. Fear of unknowns and preconceived negative notions often results in procrastination or permanent disillusionment. Are Internet “singles sites” filled with mostly losers and liars? Should Christian singles avoid looking for love on the Internet?

For Elder Perry Broadnax and Coretta Wright, the Internet proved to be the path to wedded bliss. The pair met and married! And it all started when they met at Match.com. Over the course of two years, they communicated first by email, then by phone and finally met face-to-face and finally tied the knot! (He lived in Nashville, TN and she resided in Birmingham, AL).

While both agree that the Internet is just a “tool” and not “the answer”, both are quick to confirm that when you seek “God’s will”, the Internet can be the “way.”

What made you think about connecting for “love” on the internet?

Perry: I lead a very busy and demanding professional life. Outside of the work environment, I have very little (or no) time to devote to meeting people.

Coretta: I have a very full life and wanted to meet a like- minded man. I was ready to merge my life with someone; I knew it would not be easy but I was open to receiving what God had for me.

What were some of your reservations about moving into a relationship via online?

Coretta: The “What ifs”—“What if he doesn’t look like his picture?” “What if he is lying?” “What if he has a hidden agenda?” Then, it occurred to me that he too, could have the same “What ifs.” And, I knew my intentions were earnest and true; “So why not his?” I looked to see if things lined up. “Did his actions reflect his words and heart?”

Perry: Honestly, I don’t know that I had any reservations. I knew what I wanted and was very purposeful in pursuing it. Let me also say, one cannot have an ‘Online’ relationship! The Internet is only the resource that enables two people to connect. Once the connection is established, it is up to the individuals to develop the relationship.

How did the conversation go from casual to serious?

Coretta: After spending many hours on the phone, before meeting, I felt like we knew each other well. So, when we met for the first time (he looked better than his picture!) we talked about how we wanted the relationship to proceed. We had a very long first date; this provided a lot of time to talk and get to know each other. On our second date, I went to visit him and it was then that I knew we had the same desires.

Perry: For me it was never casual; it was purposeful. That is not to say that all our conversations were always rigid and heavy. What I am saying is, I was not just talking to her just to be talking. If what we were doing was not ultimately go- ing to result in us ending up at the altar, it was a waste of time. So, all my conversations were aimed at getting to know her in order to determine if she would be “the one!”

As a Christian adult, it is imperative that before you begin a relationship, utilize any resource like the Internet, or even meet someone in the mall; you should seek God’s direction and guidance! This is the most important thing! Tell God (I mean, really tell God) what you want and what is the true desire of your heart. Wait for Him to give you the impetus to move. It’s all about ‘His timing’! Once He gives you the ‘go ahead,’ then you can begin to look.

I might also say, one must know exactly what one wants because when the waters are troubled, there will be several possible candidates. The only way to distinguish between them and ‘the one’ is to be diligent in knowing what you want and not settling for anything less. —Rev. Perry Broadnax

How did you date (long distance) and make the relationship grow?

Perry: Long distance relationships can be challenging. I don’t recommend it at all to anyone that is merely interested in “dating.” Find someone local! Seriously, once we estab- lished the necessary foundation of truth and trust; did the background checks and established compatibility, we were able to schedule our times of being together. The upside of long distance relationships is that it establishes a premium on quality time as opposed to quantity of time.

Coretta: Long distance relationships are hard and have to be more intentional. When we do spend time together it is quality time. We communicated in various ways several times a day. For example, we used webcams which allowed us to see each other more. Having a long-distance relationship has its advantages; it provides more time to gradually transition into couple-hood and builds an immeasurable amount of trust and confidence in that person.

What advice do you have for singles who want to meet someone and to potentially marry?

Perry: Please seek God’s guidance and wait for His direc- tion! Know yourself! Know what you want and refuse to settle for less!

Coretta: Seek God’s direction. Don’t rush marriage! If you can’t see yourself being honored to have his last name, let him know and move on.

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

20 Key Ideas For a Happy Marriage

1. Keep your mind on your main goal, which is to have a happy marriage. Say and do what will enable you and your spouse to have a happy marriage. Avoid the opposite. Everything else is commentary.

2. Keep asking yourselves, What can we do to have a happy, loving atmosphere in our home?

3. Focus on giving, rather than taking. Say and do as many things as possible to meet your spouses needs.

4. Keep doing and saying things that will give your spouse a sense of importance.

5. Frequently ask yourself, What positive things can I say and do to put my (husband or wife) in a positive emotional state?

6. Before speaking, clarify the outcome you want. The meaning of your communication is the response you actually get. If the first thing you say is not achieving your goal, change your approach. Remember that mutual respect and happiness is your real goal. Do not needlessly argue. Silence is often the wisest choice. Constantly be mutually respectful.

7. Show appreciation and gratitude in as many ways as possible. Say something appreciative a few times a day.

8. Be a good listener. Understand your spouse from his or her point of view.

9. Be considerate of the feelings and needs of your spouse. Think of ways that you have lacked consideration and be resolved to increase your level of consideration.

10. Instead of blaming and complaining think of positive ways to motivate your spouse. If your first strategies are not effective, think of creative ways.

11. Give up unrealistic expectations. Do not expect your spouse to be perfect and do not make comparisons.

12. Do not cause pain with words. If your spouse speaks to you in ways that cause you pain, choose outcome wording, Lets speak to each other in ways that are mutually respectful.

13. Be willing to compromise. Be willing to do something you would rather not do in return for similar behavior from your spouse.

14. Write a list of ways that you have benefited from being married to your spouse. Keep adding to the list and reread it frequently.

15. Write a list of your spouses positive patterns and qualities. Keep adding to the list and read it frequently.

16. Keep thinking about what you can do to bring out the best qualities of your spouse. Reinforce those qualities with words and action.

17. Focus on finding solutions to any problems that arise. Be solution oriented. Do not just blame and complain. Do not focus on who is more wrong. For a happy marriage, work together to find mutually acceptable solutions.

18. Remember your finest moments. What did you say and do when you felt best about each other? Increase them.

19. Look for positive activities you can do together.

20. Live in the present. What went wrong in the past is the past. You create the present and future with your thoughts, words, and actions right now. Choose them wisely.

Friday, March 19, 2010

FIVE TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS DEFINED

Not every relationship can be defined the same way. It's important to give both you and your man the clarity and peace of mind to know where you stand with one another. Use the following scenarios as a guide into defining your specific type of relationship.

The Fling
Not everyone opts to be in a committed relationship so, instead, may go for a fling. Love coach Jann Warner describes a fling as "a brief period or occasion characterised by unrestrained, impulsive or extravagant behaviour". This type of relationship is characterised by a lack of commitment and one or a few casual encounters. Defining this relationship is important, so no one expects more from the fling than they should and no feelings (which shouldn't be involved anyway) are hurt.

The Friend
According to Warner, a good friend is the one who steps in to comfort you after a break-up and curls up on the couch with you while you consume copious amounts of coffee and watch a good pick-me-up movie. Everybody needs a close male friend, but no one needs one who is confused about his role. Because of the closeness you share with a friend, it's easy for him to mistake this platonic relationship with something more. Warner describes a friendship to be "a mutually beneficial relationship marked by affection, goodwill, closeness, companionship, intimacy, comradeship, love and fondness", so it's easy to see where one can be confused. Make sure your friend understands that you want nothing more than his companionship on a strictly non-sexual basis.

The Crush
You've just met someone and it's fireworks, magic and butterflies. You spend most of your time gushing about him and singing his praises to your girls and you can't concentrate without his face popping into your mind. You definitely have a crush, which Warner describes as a "temporary infatuation or fixation". Nurture this kind of relationship and maybe you can watch it blossom into much more.

The Lust
"You see him, you want him and you pursue him with only one thought in mind," says Warner. Sometimes confusion can set in when sex is introduced to the equation. Mind-blowing sex definitely doesn't always mean love. In fact, in most instances, you just have the two confused because of the physical bond you share. If you crave to see your man all the time, it might not be love, but nature calling you to satisfy your sexual needs.

The True Love
It's different for everyone, but the feeling of true love is great and almost indescribable. If you've been in a long-term relationship and simply can't imagine a life sans your man, it may be the real deal. "Love is any number of emotions related to a sense of strong affection and attachment," says Warner. Don't be too hasty to find or admit love, in case you scare him away - but when it's there, you'll both know it.

Thursday, March 18, 2010

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Does Online Dating Work?

Dating Online is currently the Internet's biggest craze, and its here to stay! But does it actually work?

I mean, there are tons of Dating websites, but their success with matchmaking is kept rather low key, and I found out why.

When I was searching for Online dating websites, I felt that I couldn't trust many of the companies and that they were just trying to get money out of me. After many hours of research I was exhausted by the idea of Online Dating, it just seemed more hassle than what it was worth, but I was determined to see it through.

A lot of websites that I researched were either free or had rock bottom membership fees, and I found that these were the worst to go to, bar a few exceptions. Eventually I found a handful of websites that I could trust and were worth the money that they were charging, but it just took so long to find these trust-worthy sites.

So I signed up and begrudgingly paid the membership fee. One of the most important aspects I learnt early on is that your personal profile that you place on the dating website should be immaculate! By this I mean spend time modifying and perfecting your profile, as this is what counts the most! The last thing you want is to be receiving messages from other adults who are just not right for you, its better to make contact with another adult who is very similar to yourself, than to make contact with 10 adults who only share a few similarities.

Eventually I started meeting other people who were very compatible to myself, and as a result have made 2 great friends who are now a major part in my life and have been going out with my long-term girlfriend for over a year (I'm planning a trip to New York at Christmas, so that I can propose to her!)

Online Dating has worked wonders for me, even though it's taken time to get their, and I Strongly believe that if you spent time looking for the right Dating website, that's suits you and your needs then you will also have similar success. This thought gave me a brainwave.

I thought how great it would be if there was a website that had a list of all the best Dating websites, that listed these trustworthy companies, so that the biggest hassle is taken away and you can start meeting and communicating with other adults, without having to waste time looking for the best companies. So that's what I did. I designed a website that was split into sections for American Singles, Gay personals, Jewish Singles and Christian Dating, with the best dating websites for each category.

It is full of information about Online Dating, with reviews of every Dating website and loads of interesting, related articles. There is also help on the best way of writing your personal profile.

Best of luck!!

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Christian Singles: Questions To Keep Your Spirit Alive

With special events like Valentine's Day coming and going each year, I am reminded how difficult it can be to retain your spirit of who you are when you're a Christian single.

It just sometimes feels like it would be easier to mold yourself into whatever your dating partners want, and then you can get on with living happily ever after.

Become what other people want you to be, date non Christians, etc.

I was recently reminded of this when I met up with a friend for coffee. As energetic, bubby, positive, social, million-miles an hour type of Christian girl, she was telling me about her new boyfriend. They had moved in together, he didn't like to socialize, he was quiet and reserved, and all they did was watch TV.

They didn't even put up a Christmas tree or lights this past holiday season, because he thought it was all a waste of time. This from my friend who usually wears a Santa hat for the entire month of December.

As we chatted, she kept justifying all of the things that they obviously didn't have in common. I then noticed her usually dancing eyes had lost their shine.

How sad, I thought. Why had she given up on her spirit?

During my many years of single life, I attended a workshop where one of the exercises was to write done all of the things that we were looking for in a partner. But in order to do that, we first had to write down all of the things that defined us as people.

This prompted an amazing series of Soul searching questions.

1. What did I believe in?

2. What role did God play in my life?

3. What were my values?

4. What was important to me?

5. On career, did I work to live, or live to work?

6. What did I do for fun?

7. What hobbies did I have?

8. What offended me?

9. What did I consider to be right and wrong, moral and immoral, ethical and unethical?

10. What were my politics?

11. What were my dreams?

12. What goals did I have?

13. What about my family and the desire for more kids?

14. What charities and causes did I support?

By defining what I wanted in another person, I was first clarifying and refining my own self image and my own spirit.

I developed a vision of my Christian singles partner, based on my own definition of what my spirit was (as opposed to the other way around).

I became more and more committed to sustaining my spirit while searching for a partner. As it turned out, when my spirit was challenged by some of the people I dated (if they weren't Christian or if we clashed on any of the answers to the questions above), I had the confidence and inner conviction to politely say good-bye and move onto the next person.

It still took me a long time to find the right person (or rather, she found me). I still had to suffer through a few more Valentine's Days, which always reminded me of my singleness. Yet, I came to realize that it had never been more important to know what I stood for.

You too can do the same. Answer those questions above and understand what you stand for.

Then you can continue your search for like-minded people. The Internet and website personals speeds that whole process up for you, letting you refine your search by specific age ranges, kids or not, divorced or not, white, black, location, income level, career path, values, etc.

Your spirit will truly sing when you start getting to know like-minded people.

Friday, March 12, 2010

ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT THESE PRAYERS

Now to the 19 prayer points to release your
God-ordained partner from evil spiritual cage ...


Begin with praise and worship ...

1 Holy Spirit, overshadow this relationship

2 Let the spirit of love and understanding prevail between us in the name of Jesus

3 O Lord, reveal to me every secret I need to know concerning this relationship in the name of Jesus

4 I command every spirit of division to depart from my relationship in the name of Jesus

5 You spirit of Egypt, release my ... (mention the name) in the name of Jesus

6 Let all family cages holding my ... (mention the name) be destroyed by the fire of God in Jesus' name

7 Lord Jesus, wash away every anti-marriage stamp, label and links from with your blood

8 Let every ungodly family interference be cut off completely in the mighty name of Jesus

9 Let all anti-marriage yokes break in the name of Jesus

10 Let all the effects of evil spiritual wedding rings, clothes and shoes be completely removed in Jesus' name

11 Let any veil of hatred against me in the heart of ... (mention the name) be destroyed in the name of Jesus

12 Let any wicked spirit polluting the heart of my ... against me receive the stones of fire, in the name of Jesus

13 O Lord, put the love for me back in the heart of ...

14 Let the joy of the enemy over my relationship be converted to sorrow in the name of Jesus

15 You ... (mention the name), you will not follow the evil patterns of any parent or ancestors in Jesus' name

16 I bind all activities of spirits from the air, water, land and family idols, and I forbid them from interfering in my relationship from today in Jesus' name

17 Let all activities contrary to my successful marriage be paralyzed in the name of Jesus

18 Let all spirits of fear, depression, worry and despair release me now in the mighty name of Jesus

19 Thank you LORD for answering my prayers in Jesus' name

ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT THESE PRAYERS

Now to the 19 prayer points to release your
God-ordained partner from evil spiritual cage ...


Begin with praise and worship ...

1 Holy Spirit, overshadow this relationship

2 Let the spirit of love and understanding prevail between us in the name of Jesus

3 O Lord, reveal to me every secret I need to know concerning this relationship in the name of Jesus

4 I command every spirit of division to depart from my relationship in the name of Jesus

5 You spirit of Egypt, release my ... (mention the name) in the name of Jesus

6 Let all family cages holding my ... (mention the name) be destroyed by the fire of God in Jesus' name

7 Lord Jesus, wash away every anti-marriage stamp, label and links from with your blood

8 Let every ungodly family interference be cut off completely in the mighty name of Jesus

9 Let all anti-marriage yokes break in the name of Jesus

10 Let all the effects of evil spiritual wedding rings, clothes and shoes be completely removed in Jesus' name

11 Let any veil of hatred against me in the heart of ... (mention the name) be destroyed in the name of Jesus

12 Let any wicked spirit polluting the heart of my ... against me receive the stones of fire, in the name of Jesus

13 O Lord, put the love for me back in the heart of ...

14 Let the joy of the enemy over my relationship be converted to sorrow in the name of Jesus

15 You ... (mention the name), you will not follow the evil patterns of any parent or ancestors in Jesus' name

16 I bind all activities of spirits from the air, water, land and family idols, and I forbid them from interfering in my relationship from today in Jesus' name

17 Let all activities contrary to my successful marriage be paralyzed in the name of Jesus

18 Let all spirits of fear, depression, worry and despair release me now in the mighty name of Jesus

19 Thank you LORD for answering my prayers in Jesus' name

Thursday, March 11, 2010

14 Prayers to Find a Godly Spouse

Finding your God given spouse has nothing to do with your looks, age or income. It’s good to have those things if you can but in the spiritual world they are of little or no significance.

It is deep spiritual insight like we’re going to share here that counts.

In the book of Genesis 24:3-4 when it was time for Isaac to get married, Abraham sent his servant to his country with strict instruction to get a wife for his son.

He knew that God hated “unequal yoke” of marriage with unbelievers. Till today that is still the stand of God. A misstep in this area can spell doom and gloom for an individual up to many generations, while the right choice can open the door to favor, bliss and something really close to heaven on earth… this side of eternity!

These prayer points are designed for those who love God and want His will in marriage.

Confessions:

Matt 7:7

Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:

Isa 54:17

No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD.

Isa 49:25

But thus saith the LORD, Even the captives of the mighty shall be taken away, and the prey of the terrible shall be delivered: for I will contend with him that contendeth with thee, and I will save thy children.

1. Thank God because He alone is the perfect matchmaker

2. Lord, release the man/woman you have preordained as my spouse in Jesus’ name.

3. Lord, cause it to happen that the divine match will come forth soon in the name of Jesus.

4. Lord, let my spouse be a person who loves You wholeheartedly in the name of Jesus.

5. Lord, establish our home according to the scriptures in Jesus name (read Ephesians 5:20-28).

6. Father, let all satanic barriers keeping us from meeting be dissolved in Jesus’ name.

7. Lord, send forth your warring angels to battle and release my spouse wherever s/he is in the name of Jesus.

8. Lord, I believe You have created me for a special person; bring it to pass in the name of Jesus.

9. I now call him/her out of obscurity into my life in Jesus’ name.

10. I reject the provision of counterfeit spouse by the enemy in the name of Jesus.

11. I cut off the flow of any inherited marital problems into my life in the mighty name of Jesus (pray this one 7 times… aggressively)

12. O Lord, let the spirit of patience reign in my life until the right person comes in the name of Jesus.

13. (Please pray this one with all your strength for at least 5 minutes)

Father, in the name of Jesus, just as Abraham sent his servant to find his son Isaac a wife, send the Holy Spirit to bring my future partner to me.

14. Thank the Lord for the answer.

In Christian Dating is Chemistry important or not?

Attraction is an important ingredient in dating, even in Christian dating circles. Many Christian singles are guided by whether or not they “feel” an attraction toward a person of the opposite gender. The physical attraction toward another person is often capsulated under the term “chemistry.” I suggest that this is one of the most misunderstood areas connected with a potential Christian dating relationships.

Many Christian men and Christian women are told after a few dates that, while there may have been chemistry initially, there is no longer a chemistry felt for them. Because there is no chemistry the person has decided to drop the Christian dating relationship and pursue another direction. It can be a very devastating time in the life of a single Christian.

I strongly believe that too much focus is being placed on chemistry, or physical attraction. Allow me to share some points that I believe need to be understood by Christian singles when considering chemistry:

· Many marriages in the Old Testament were arranged. Jacob is one of those who had “chemistry” toward Rachel, only to find that he had married Leah.

· A fact of life is that we have been conditioned by society to look for the physical attributes of other Christian singles first. This is like having dessert before you eat your veggies.

· It is a well-established fact in both secular and Christian counseling that sexual satisfaction grows with a relationship.

· People that had “chemistry” initially and lose it after dating a few times never had chemistry in the beginning. They had a fantasy and were attracted to what they wanted the connection to become, versus what it really was. Such approaches are self-serving and damaging to other Christian singles. If you find yourself being guided in this manner get a reality check and learn how to look for the essential ingredients first.

· I find it absolutely fascinating to find that many previously married Christian men and Christian women are often consumed to not “repeat” the sexual incompatibility of their previous marriage. What is interesting is that BOTH of them move into a new marriage and enjoy sex like they never have before. My observation is that it was not sexual incompatibility in the previous marriage that was the difficulty. It was one or both of them not addressing the underlying relationship issues that need to be fed and present BEFORE good sex can take place. Conversely, Christian singles who so highly demand sexual compatibility in a new marriage are often the ones to marry again and not have it. They think that a good sexual relationship in dating is a good indicator of sex after marriage. It is NOT! If the man or women does not take the time to discover their part in contributing to the lack of sexual satisfaction in the previous marriage, the odds are huge that they will repeat the same cycle. Good intentions have little to do with reality. Recall the old saying “the road to hell is paved with good intentions.” God does know best on this one when He says to wait until marriage for sex.

· If the chemistry is the RESULT of building a strong foundation for the Christian dating relationship in the other areas, it is a great thing. If chemistry is measured prior to building the foundation and growing the Christian dating relationship, it is leading with FEELINGS and nothing more. If you choose to lead with your feelings, you will have great difficulty in finding the “right” person and will be in a vicious cycle of searching….and searching…and……

· Instead of leading with chemistry, I encourage dating, Christian singles to look for all those traits and qualities you desire in a mate. Character and behavioral traits are much more important foundational elements for determining the potential of a good relationship.

· I am not saying that Christian singles should ignore physical attraction. I am saying that it needs to be only one of many considerations, made with proper timing.

· Take the time to get to really know another person. Spend time in prayer seeking God’s guidance about the Christian dating relationship. Invite the input of trusted and wise friends and family. If you see that the relationship is not moving in an affirming direction in a reasonable time, discuss it openly with the other person. Pray about it and affirm each other as individuals. Do not force a relationship, but do give it time to surface any potential.

· Telling another single Christian that you do not find chemistry in the relationship and want to move on is really an immature way to handle a very vulnerable situation. I believe it would be better to bathe it in prayer and openly be considerate of one another.

· If someone comes to you after a period of relating and tells you that they have been seeking God’s guidance in your Christian dating relationship and do not have a peace about pursuing it, tell them to pray with you about it. Honor their position and take it up with God. Share your heart with God and tell him that you value the potential of the relationship, but trust Him to provide for you in the future.

Do you want to continue to receive the same results that you have experienced in the past? You will, if you continue to approach life in the same way. Ask God’s Spirit to give you wisdom and discernment in your Christian dating relationships and all areas of your life. He hungers to lead you down a more fulfilling path to joy and peace.

Is That Online Single ‘The One’ for You?

So after months of browsing the profiles of Christian singles online and going on dates with dozens of charming Christian singles you’ve finally found someone special. You’re ready to settle down – but is this person ‘The One’? As a good Christian you know that marriage is a long term commitment, so when you make your decision you want it to be the right one. Before popping the question consider the following:

Are You Ready For a Lifelong Commitment?

For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Matthew 10: 5-6)

The day you marry you make a vow to God to stay with your loved one until ‘death do you part’. Dating can be a frustrating experience and finally finding someone through a Christian dating website or otherwise can give you a rush of excitement. Remember though, after the rush is gone the two of you will have to face life’s trials together. So make sure you are ready to live with this person day in and day out.

Is This Person As Committed to God as You?

Christians come in a variety of denominations and you’ll have to find someone who is as committed to Church and God as you are. Finding someone who has similar goals and commitments will make joining your lives together much easier. If you have varying beliefs you’ll want to make choices about how you’re going to raise any children you have beforehand.

Are You a Mature Christian?

For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife? (Corinthians 7:16)

Before tying the knot you’ll want to be secure in your own beliefs and secure in your knowledge of who you are. Marriages will require compromises and you’ll need to know beforehand what you can and cannot compromise. As a mature Christian you will have a full knowledge of Jesus and be firm in your faith. You and your spouse will be able to support each other during weak moments and travel through life with God in your hearts and God as the center of your marriage.

How Long Have You Known This Person?

Dating Christian singles through Christian dating websites, through friends, or through Church is an exciting experience. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of love. However, before you commit your life to someone before God you’ll want to make sure you know that person fully. Meet his or her friends and family; get to know his or her hobbies and interests before settling down. If you can’t name a few flaws and say you’re ready to accept them you probably don’t know enough about this person.

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